Hey Ben, thanks man.

Yeah going to IM events is the easiest way to get a JV!

Because its more 'real'. Yes just be yourself and add value to them, exactly!

1) If they like you enough to invite you out with them then thats even better, and THEN you can pay because it was their idea to invite you out with them.

2) The other way is if you invite them out to dinner and pay. I wouldn't recommend this because then they might sense you want something from them (hence the kind gestures)

The 1st one is more my style and is more natural. Up to you which one you choose!