This will look back to a very important point about Internet Marketing, so stick with me.
I met a girl during the time I was sick. I was not looking for a relationship because the doctors all expected me to die, but we got along great. So many times I felt like a person who was just waiting to die, and I'd talk to her on the phone or she would come over to see me and I'd have a glimpse of happyness and my old self. She was with me when I had to move back in with my mom and dad because I'd spent seven figures on my medical bills, she was with me when I almost lost my leg to an infection. When I spent over 200 days in the hospital, 90 of it in isolation she was the only person who consistantly drove the two hours to come spend the allowed 10 minutes with me.
Because I was supposed to be dying I didnt ever tell her how I felt about her. I fell in love, but I felt it would be unfair of me to get her involved in a relationship with a guy who had an 80% chance of dying, and 100% chance of doing so flat broke. It just seemed like a selfish thing to do. What I failed to see is that she'd already bought herself a ticket, and I'd just not ever bothered to invite her to sit next to me, which made her feel terrible.
Anyway, about a month ago I finally broke down and told her how I felt, and I was more scared doing that then I've been in a long time. She felt the same way, and we've been having a great time. I trust her because she's been through the worst of times with me, and the way she treats me has not changed at all as I've started to become successful again. It's really nice.
This weekend is her birthday, and I have to be in away. I tried to change my calender, but it was impossible to do. For a long time her friends have been planning a big party for her (it's her 30th), and so she couldnt come with me. To try to make up for it I sent her over $200 in flowers, and a diamond bracelette. The dumb a$$es at the flower shop gave her my card, but did not put my dang name on it! Who in the heck sends a diamond bracelette and $200 in flowers, with a card but no name I don't know, but it sure as hell ain't me!
So when the flowers show up she was very excited and took a picture of them and sent me a text message to ask if I'd gotten them for me. I did not respond right away, and so she started to wonder. There is another guy that has liked her since HS, I kind of feel bad for him because according to a lot of her friends when I was sick and she was feeling bad about it, and also that I was too stupid to express how I felt, he was the “nice guy” who gave her a shoulder to cry on hoping it might turn into something more. She started to wonder if maybe he was the one who'd sent them, so she sent him the picture and texted him to ask if he had. The stupid SOB tried to take credit for it and said that yes, he was the mystery man!
Well then she sent me a text saying nevermind, it was Mr Nice. Of course it took me about 3/10ths of a nanosecond to reply back that it was not! I told her exactly what brand of bracelette I'd sent, plus told her word for word what the card said, and so she knew Mr Nice Guy was also a liar.
He's now been told to lose her number, that she think's he is rather creepy and to never ever call her again.
This is pretty extreme, but I see people do the same thing in IM all the time! “Fake it till you make it” they say, and it's advice that a lot of people follow. The result is that the IM space has a glut of horrible info, products created by people who have never made a nickle trying to teach other people who havent made any money how to make money. Basically they build their business on a big lie, and even if they eventually do “make it”, the foundation is still a big lie. What happens if that lie gets found out? It just seems so short sighted to me, because if/when people find out, your toast. Word travels fast on the 'net, and a reputation that you build over years can be destroyed in a single moment.
Let me offer you a suggestion: If IM is your “thing”, you know more about marketing then 90% of the executives at top tier marketing firms do, and more then 99% of the people selling products on the 'net. There are SO DAMN MANY NICHE MARKETS OUT THERE dying to have a good marketer selling to them. You can easily pay someone on CL a few hundred $$ and have a great product. Look at the site “How to build a chicken coop” on Clickbank. Let me say this again, HOW TO BUILD A FRIGGIN CHICKEN COOP!, and I'm guessing by the number of affiliates they have that they bring in six figures with it!
If you want to break into IM, do it the right way, which is to actually become a good marketer first. Look, this is the toughest niche out there because everyone has seen everything. You can go into some of these other markets and just kill it. You don't have to be 20% as good and you can still kill it. Even very competative niche's like Forex and stock market trading, while very lucrative and hyper competative, are not anywhere near as difficult to break into and succeed at as IM.
Seriously if you want to break into IM, create some products in other, easier markets. You can easily clear six figures, and then you will be doing something that 90% of the “how to make money from home on the internet” guru's are not even doing...and you can use that to actually have something worthwhile to offer the IM market.
You don't have to set your dreams of getting into the IM market aside. I've thought off and on about getting into it since 2004 and I'm finally doing it. And the thing is, it's not been horribly difficult for me as it is for a lot of people, because I can actually come to the conversation with something to offer.
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